Last week after getting all
dressed for our family pictures I dug my “hot mama” boots out, slipped them on
and began to pull the zipper up my calf on them when it stopped dead in the zipper
track. My calf (My ham hock, as I call it because of its size) is so big that I
could not zip it up. I loved these boots
at one time. They are high heel hot mama boots that go half way up my legs. Well they did not make these “hot Mama” boots
for these big legs I guess. Maybe that is a good thing… My children do not want
me running around dressed hot. They would much rather see me wear my hair up in
a bun dressed in an apron that was sewn in 1950. Megan for one is VERY modest and gets mad if
you even say the word Sexy in front of her. In fact while reading this to review before posting
Zane over heard the word Sexy and whined “HEY! DON"T SAY THAT WORD MOM!”. I have now
changed my wording to Hot Mama boots.
Back shortly after I was
married my husband started pulling my shirt up whenever it would show any
cleavage whatsoever. Out of respect for him I just quit wearing shirts that
were any bit low cut. That and it was embarrassing having him pull my shirt up in
public. Eventually I just felt insecure
dressed like that. Now out of respect for myself I just dress modest. Some
places I go it would be ok but other times (like at church) it is actually embarrassing
to show cleavage as I feel out of place.
What is my point I am losing
it myself in the rambling??? I used to be someone different than I am today.
There are parts of me that are still the same person but somewhere along the
line a lot about me has changed. Jim and I used to go out to the bar one time
per week when the older kids were with their dad. We played a lot of pool, Sang
karaoke and sometimes drank way too much. That does not fit who we are
anymore. Before we were married he said
that he wanted to raise his children in church. There were 2 different Pentecostal
churches he liked and so I choose one and took the kids to it. Prior to that time
my kids had been raised attending a Baptist church. I refused to go to the other Pentecostal Jim liked
as I have a ton of reasons I don’t like it but that is another blog post all
together.
He did not want me to go to
the bar while he was gone and out of respect I Said I would wait until he got
home to do so. We have never been back
to the bar and he has been released from the military for a year and 5 months.
There are other things we can do instead of going to the bar but have really
done nothing aside from attend a few family functions since he has been home. All of them except two of which were his
families functions so this year we are spending Christmas Eve with mine. This will be the first holiday I have had with
my family since Jim and I have been together. Something we have done together
is go to his Va appointments and shop on the way home. We
found out that we love going to eat at Cracker Barrel. Maybe our lack of grown
up interaction stems from having 8 children, after all 3 of them are 2 and
under.
We tend to keep ourselves
occupied cleaning cooking and trying to remodel this house which has taken up 2
summers now. That is not counting the
first fall when we got the place when it had no running water, hot water heater, working
furnace or bathtub. (I feel much more
accomplished when I think about all that work that has been done) that’s again
another subject. (I am a lot like a toy
train and you have to keep putting me back on the track) Anyways, what do other
families do when they find that they have outgrown there old life? I am
curious. This is one thing I find that is been bothering me lately is that we don’t
have an adult interaction. He mentioned going to the bar awhile back as he
wants to sing karaoke which we did not do. I am really not interested in going to
a bar at all. He worked so hard to tell me how awful the bar was over and over
and why I should never step foot in one and now that he has it in my head he
mentions it.. ha ha go figure. We both come around to the others way of thinking. We used to play volleyball with friends and we
also went out to eat every other Sunday with a group which we no longer do. We don’t
have a sitter anyways. I am sure that as the babies grow this season will
pass. So what do other families do for
adult interaction as a couple when they have kids this young? We could very easily
find things to do separate but I don’t see always doing everything alone as
good on a relationship. This is
something that I found bothered me before as well. Being together all the time which we are and spending quality time together are two different things. When he was gone I put all my effort into the kids and the house. When he came home we put all our effort into the kids and the house.. now its time to put some effort into us.
I have always found this article funny although some of it I agree with its not that much of it .. ha ha
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the
Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the
wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ,
so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ
loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to
make her holy, cleansing[a] her
by the washing with water through the word, 27 and
to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any
other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In
this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who
loves his wife loves himself. 29 After
all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body,
just as Christ does the church— 30 for
we are members of his body. 31 “For
this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This
is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.33 However,
each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must
respect her husband.
1 comments:
Good Post! I love a post on submission!!! I was reminded of something in regards to the submission...go back to Ephesians 5:18, the verse says"...be filled with the Spirit!" It's a good reminder that in order to submit, we need to be filled first! Blessings to you! ~ Mama Cook
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