The question was: Has anyone had a Starter marriage?
These are pictures of my Husband and I although we look quite immature riding around on children bikes I believe we are a Match Made in Heaven and our marriage is blessed by God as it should be!
They were
just not prepared to give up what they wanted for what someone higher than them
wanted. They did not realize the sacrifice they had to make for their family
and all the hard work it would take. They knew nothing of how much time it
would take to care for a baby and how much of their own fun time they would have
to give up to raise this child. Even helping with siblings does not prepare
someone to be the main supporter for another human being while learning about
marriage at the same time. Maybe they each had their own unspoken expectations of
what marriage would be that clashed with the other persons. They were not prepared.
Myself as a
young teen mom I had a clue although not a big enough one, but I was told “it
is just cold feet”. We forgot the 10 bucks to pay the magistrate and I took it
as a sign that we should just all go home. No one else did and my soon to be
husbands step father handed him over another 10 bucks to pay up. Before I knew it we were standing in front of
a court room of distant relatives, close friends and family and being
pronounced “you are now husband and wife.” My immature comment blurted out as he finished
with “you are now pronounced husband and wife!” “Can we come back to this same
room for the divorce then?” As the audience gasped, giggled, smirked, and shook
heads the magistrate said “No that will
be the next court room over.”
What a term “Starter
marriage!” Why did my parents not warn
me? “God hates Divorce!” I was told that there was a way out later if it did not
work. I had went to church my whole life
without my parents. While I was married my 1st husband did not want
to attend so I eventually went alone. Reading the bible as an adult and
attending church I saw that it was not right to divorce. As I stated earlier in one of my posts I spoke
with many pastors about what god thought of it. In spite of it all, after being married for 10
years it did not work out ultimately ending in divorce. I am now re-married and much more mature in
this marriage than the previous though we all have room for improvement. In the end that Divorce came down to God and I. It was he who had to
forgive me for my sins. When my current husband and I married I truly felt like
god would bless my family. I knew that Jim was willing to have a church family
and raise our children in church which I had felt was most important.
I truly feel that we should engage our
daughters and sons in activities that keep them busy with family while guiding
them to become the man or woman god wants them to be. I feel like it is our
duty to our children to teach them what god expects of them and discourage them
to engage in behaviors that could result in pregnancy by taking your time to
spend doing activities with them. I know with even the best parents teen
pregnancy can happen but being lenient and letting your daughter’s boyfriend
stay n the same bed is inviting trouble and lacks common sense. Is a “starter marriage”
really what you want for your child? Remember
you are not just your child’s friend. You are their parent first. It is your job
from the time they are born to raise them in a way that they can be functioning
part of society that respects God and life. When you look at your little
newborn baby for the first time what values come to mind that you want to
instill in them? (I will give my answer to that in a later post.)
Genesis 18:19 For I have chosen him, that he may command his children and his
household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing righteousness and
justice, so that the LORD may bring to Abraham what he has promised him.”
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the
way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Isaiah 54:13 All your children shall
be taught by the LORD, and great shall be the peace of your children.
Malachi 2:16 “For I hate divorce!" says the LORD, the God of Israel. "To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty," says the LORD of Heaven's Armies. "So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife."
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